My life has been a journey, one that few people really know but think they do. I have learned so much on this journey and as I am on the precipice of my 62nd birthday, I realize that it is important to reflect upon my life and begin to share those reflections.
At 30, I looked back on my life and became aware of how much I needed to accomplish, things to get done and how I was scared and could not figure out where I wanted to go and was ashamed of where I had been.
At 40, I reflected upon all that I had not accomplished, what I had not done, where I had not been, how my life had passed me by.
At 50, I reflected on who I was, what I had become and what was the real meaning of it all. Is there more to my life than just what I do and what I have? Is this all there is ever going to be?
At 60, I reflect upon all that I have learned, all that I have over come, and all that is really important to me. At 60, I reflect upon my worth and how long I have always had it but did not know it.
What I have learned is this, at each and every one of those age milestones I have always had worth and my mere existence on this earth as a whole and positive human being all by itself is a magnificent accomplishment.
Now I reflect on my journey, my failures, my accomplishments, my lessons, my pain, joy, happiness, my anger, regrets and all the love in my life. I reflect on my values and how they have shown up in my life over my 62 years.
Today I know there is so much more to life than just getting more stuff; today I understand the responsibility of my life and the life of my fellow human being.
Do you take time to reflect on your life? Do you journal? Do you review the lessons you have learned?
When you take time to reflect, you will realize that there are constant opportunities for you to change the story of your life. You will see the patterns of that are happening in your life, over and over, when you see the patterns you are able to take action to interrupt those patterns or follow them to a conclusion.
It was upon reflection that I learned that I was my own worse enemy. I am the source of my own self sabotage that were being dictated by the fears I fiercely held on to, and when I followed those fears to the source I learned that they were the fears of a child who was told she was too stupid to accomplish anything beyond bearing children and caring for a man. They were fears that were not my fears but fears that had been put upon me, I believed them and made them my fears. Only reflection will allow you to discover these lessons that will allow you to rewrite your story.
Take time to reflect. At the end of the week, reflect on what you have learned, accomplished, and overcome. Take time to review the year, the years, the decade, and the life to date. It is only in reflection what we learn what we need to know without having to continue to repeat the same lessons over and over.
When you take the time to reflect you have the ability to change the path of your story.